My clients who struggle with pornography addiction were all exposed to porn as children or young adolescents. Their parents weren't equipped to help them navigate the complex and overpowering experience of viewing porn. They usually hid their behaviors from their parents because of shame or fear. By the time they come see me, they've had a secret addiction for decades.

I help my clients by first establishing trust: they need to know I can handle their story without judging them or being disgusted by them. Once we've established a strong sense of trust, we explore their story more deeply. This helps us see the roots of their porn use in shame, family dysfunction, and childhood wounds. Tending to these roots is how we cultivate change. I've seen that transformation and freedom come from deep healing rather than trying to manage behavior.