Feelings for Thinkers

You have a rich mental life, a whole world of imagination, ideas, analyses, and problem-solving.  This has served you well in your vocation, your interests, and in many of your relationships.

It may also have helped you survive your childhood.

While your mind is a tremendous source of strength, you're finding that cognition isn't the solution to every problem, and spending so much time in your head leaves you disconnected in your most important relationships and estranged from your own sense of self. 

What I have to say might make you throw up in your mouth a little bit, but hear me out: You might need to feel your feelings more.

Though they might scare you or make you feel vulnerable, emotions are a vital part of being alive.  These powerful forces of nature inform us, connect us, and move us.

You may have learned early in life to avoid emotions altogether because they open you up to humiliation.  The disgust you feel reading about feelings protects you from the poison of shame.  But now, as an adult, you are capable of a more nuanced means of protection that doesn't require you to suppress a critical part of human existence.  It is absolutely possible to live an emotionally vibrant life safeguarded by wisdom and trust.

I believe emotional maturity requires a hospitable environment in which to practice curiosity and kindness.  I want to welcome you into exactly that kind of process.  I will challenge and support you as you engage your emotions.  This will not be to the detriment of your thinking powers.  It is not only possible to think and feel at the same time but it is essential for a well-integrated mind.